Monday, March 30, 2015

90's Baby

"Stop daydreaming with your mouth hanging open before your lips get big!" I'm convinced that all of our grandparents and even parents once stressed these foolish "life lessons" before. Well at least for my family and I, yes. I can't begin to say how many times I thought people could randomly become "ugly looking" just by making silly face. I don't know which was worst, thinking your face could've change from silly faces, or believing having "big lips" was ugly.

Growing up in the 90s and early 2000s, black women (at least the ones I grew up watching) actually looked black! All we had was some ashy powder foundation, eyeliner and black lip liner and we looked stunning.

To me I think that's the most beautiful look ever ! But for some ridiculous reason that was also considered ugly. It was all about "thin features" and "light-to-white skin." I personally think all women are beautiful (especially in there own way.) However, call it favoritism but black women have the beauty of queens. Yes we have been oppressed for hundred of years from blacks and non blacks, focusing more on or looks and bodies, but I personally think that one reason was because of intimidation. Everyone knows beauty when they see it; it's just a matter of power, jealousy and control that prevents you from admitting it.

But to get back on topic, it's sad that I grew up in my home to think that having big lips or any full feature wasn't attractive. Despite forwarding years later and seeing more European women "trending" this African looks, and some black women going for this "European look", I still believe self pride/love should be a primary factor in your life. No one shouldn't give you the okay or thumbs up when they finally feel like admiring or even acknowledging your beauty. No man, women, white or black can ever tell me how to view myself. I am careful though; people would go as far as subconsciously trying brainwash you.

I'm just blessed that I haven't took that mentality into my adulthood, (It could've been worst). I don't blame my parents, after all that's how they been raised. What I do think is that they should have been more carefully with they words they used to describe "ugly looking" and the people associated with it, especially talking about it in the presence of their young gullible black daughters. I am glad to say I did learn a "life lesson"

Sunday, March 15, 2015

Lonely Days

Ever been so alone that you've become lonely? Or been in the center of attention, and yet feel so distant? From peers, family and even life?

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Yeah... welcome to my world too ! I can't remember that last time my "soul felt whole." Somewhere down this crazy dysfunctional daily life, I almost never feel complete. With love, hope, happiness, nothing. Sometimes I feel as though I really do in fact "live in the moment." I mean really, that's probably the best way to get through these life situations. Planning and "applying" my journey to true happiness really didn't wait for my never ending crazy thoughts. Thoughts about my future, family, school, health, almost everything. I mean realistically speaking, everyone goes through tough situations, yes, but some people have them worst than others and even deal with them differently. We can't help but go through these emotionally unstable times in our life. But what we can do is understand the problem, want to change it, and actually take the right steps to happiness.

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For me that became journaling which then led to blogging. I stumbled upon Create Write Now website, in hopes of an activity to keep my mind focused, and get a sense of who I am through journaling. I must say, I am super glad I did ! At first I really didn't think that writing down my daily thoughts could possibly help to being a better person, but it did in fact a lot.

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From free write, to topics and many more, you'll love to journal on the regular, but most importantly understand the roots of the problem you've been facing, and then be able to change those frustrating habits of yours. Don't believe me? Then try it out yourself, not only is it very interesting and informative, but also fun and free !

Monday, March 9, 2015

Plus Spring

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Spring is finally approaching ! And I'm super excited for all the fun colorful fashion. Yes it's true, when people hear spring/summer they think of slim or "hot bods." But this time around we should be ready to embrace our waist ! Being plus size can put a lot of stress on people (especially women). Nothing is more saddening then wanting to look and feel good, but is very self-conscious about your body, leaving you feeling hopeless. Ohh, but there IS hope ! And it's nothing more than the oh-so classic high waist pants.

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 For plus size women, we should make our clothes our befriends. Jeans can either make or break your look, and I do believe majority of the time you can't go wrong with stylish or even a simple pair of high jeans. Not only do they flaunt your sexy silhouette, but they also can hide the areas you don't want exposed. You'll even look taller in them too ! Feeling a little sporty? You can try high waist shorts (or cut & style your own). I prefer a nice cropped designer top, or a long cut up tee to "work the look", and because these pants tend to be very versatile, you'll look great in most trending tops. Of course the look can't be completed without (my favorite part of an outfit) stunning accessories.
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